As an Erosian is well aware, our theory and practice stems from the physical act of sex. Sex has been defined on many levels, detailing its influence in love, family, lust, etc. However it is in the best interest of the studied Erosian to separate the levels of his/her sexuality and come to an understanding on each level. By following the above listed order of sexual definition, we will look at how Erosian Theory can apply to all levels of sexuality.
Erosian Theory finds its biggest opposition, as well as its biggest supporter in the love relationship. Unless both parties are involved in the Erosian study, growth, desire, and demand will differ. However when two compatible people, who both work and understand Erosian Theory join together in an EXCLUSIVE EROSIAN RELATIONSHIP they join together to grow, experience and build on the Erosian concepts together, exploring to the desired growth potential.
Erosian concepts do allow for non-Erosian relationships, at which time the Erosian should be aware that he/she will need to limit the physical experience growth, and expand mentally, or look to physical self growth via self gratification.
Although Erosian Theory takes a backseat to the proper way to raise children, many of its ideals can apply. Personal respect for one’s thoughts and actions, dignity in sexual relationships, respect for the thoughts and actions or others, as well as the non-judgemental aspect of Erosian Theory makes for strong teaching tools when working to define a child’s attitudes toward sex. Once again, it cannot be stated emphatically enough that Erosian Theory and Practice in no way espouses any sexual activity amongst children.
This is the cornerstone of the Erosian Theory. Although we have grown to respond to lust as a negative term, usually defined as base sexual instinct, this is merely another program set by narrow minded individuals who cannot understand the natural goodness inherent in sexual activity. When we understand that so many of these individuals see sex as the original sin, it is easy to understand the misdefinition of the word LUST. Lust is merely the physical side of sexual desire, divorced somewhat from love. Love details the emotional state of two people together, whereas lust defines the physical. Lust can be experienced without the trappings of love very rarely in our society. ETAP allows us to change this.
With ETAP as our motivating focus, we can recognize desire, and channel it independent of a love interest. When the lust motivation is present in an individual who cannot differentiate between lust and love, or can differentiate but feels guilt associated with the lust not love relationship, the focus of desire is diminished, guilt replaces happiness, and sadness and confusion grow where there should be happiness and enjoyment. One of the first questions an ETAP follower should ask him/her self is this: “Am I in love/like with this person, or do I desire a physical experience(s) with him/her?” When the answer is determined, and if it is the latter of the two choices, then the Erosian should be very aware that the relationship is fun, enjoyable, growth oriented, but should not place love-valued emotions into play. False love can build unnecessary jealousy, anger, guilt and lack of self worth. You need to remember what you are and why you are doing what you do. Don’t be afraid or guilty to call a sexual relationship what it is; a sexual relationship. If both parties define the terms, it becomes comprehendible to foresee relationships where two or three people get together because of a specific sexual desire, and work toward fulfilling that desire. It is not impossible to foresee special interest groups formed where the members would exchange ideas and work toward a guiltless group that could interact together. The key to this is honest and open communication and participation.
Philosophy aside, there is also a certain degree to be said about performance and satisfaction. If an Erosian recognizes his or her sexuality, they must also have a desire to increase their abilities. In other words, a by-line to ETAP is increased sexual prowess. Please remember that this is not a measure of how much you please yourself, but how much you please your partner.
Mutual satisfaction leads to greater input from each partner, and makes positive growth faster and stronger. (For more information on physical activities see Sexual Practices and Guidelines)
But to the focus of the treatise: The Physical Self. To paraphrase Stephen Hayes, renowned martial artist and author, “I have experienced many things that people would say go beyond the physical realm. However upon closer examination, I have found that they are inherently physical.” The purpose of his statement was to show that many times we associate the occult and the unknown with magic and evil, when in reality, these things are the most natural, and most assuredly of the physical realm.
In my concept of the physical plane, I find that all things come from the state of the physical self. Our body’s organs, glands, nerves, etc are the instruments of our passage of this plane. The health of these tools and our ability to utilize them for our own pleasure is the focus of Erosian Physicality.
If we conceive of the power that drives our physical bodies as energy, or the aura as I call it, then positive reinforcement of the structure that houses that power can only be good. The pleasure associated by the experience of the focused power in action is often seen by a runner’s “high”, an adrenalin surge, or in our situation, the orgasm. To enhance this pleasure, we should follow a course that stresses health, fitness and training of our sexual selves. When the physical self is honed to a fine point where we can experience the pleasures of orgasm in depth and focused, then we can begin to channel the energy released at this point for positive use in our lives.
The point of physicality and the physical self is of value to the Erosian only. Sadly in today’s world, many people experience orgasm like a fast food meal. Quick and tasty, but lacking in nutrition, and with no real value to the senses. Orgasm should be the dessert in a seven course meal, the coup de’ gras of the experience, to be savored and remembered. However unlike a seven course meal, an orgasm should be a frequent and common activity.